The theme of the relationship within a couple of Dancesport where both dancers are forced to think not only about themselves, but also about their partner is an important issue. Spending a lot of time together in training, travel, trials, competitions, victories and failures, all this can influence the relationship between partners, each of the dancers carries certain responsibilities, which can lead to success or inevitable separation. And if there is a relationship in the middle sentimental, it is even harder to cope.
Many people believe that the relationship between two dancers is built by itself if you only spend time in daily preparation and you concentrate on the success of the duo forgetting the most important thing – the human factor – that can play tricks on you at the most important moment .
It is worth remembering that you dance with a person who has his own interests, fears, motivations, tastes, that is to say with his own life, and if you know him only in part, that is in the dance, sooner or later the couple will break. Pay attention to your partner, be interested in her and be flexible when looking for solutions to possible problems, in most cases helps to avoid failures to each dancer and the couple as a whole.
The most important thing is to have common interests. One of them you already share, it’s the dance. The second has to be your OBJECTIVE, this is BASIC. After the desire to compete, aspirations, and then needs.
Here we leave you 5 rules that both dancers and dancers must follow:
1- Be patient, kind and more convincing.
Nobody is going to pay attention to you if you are self-centered, conceited and think more about yourself than your partner. Even if it’s in the background like that, an intelligent person knows that he can not show it, but on the contrary, he can help your partner if he admits it, and if not, do not reproach him, not impose his vision of the dance, allow him to develop on its own, even if you have much more experience. Left hand.
Look at each situation from different sides, from different perspectives.
2- If you have angered your partner, what should you do? Buy a chocolate bar, flowers or a basket of fruit, but you should not evade. The fault of any conflict is of both, but the girls (as a rule) do not usually admit it, so guys, do not behave the same, solve the problem in any way described above. You have to be generous and diplomatic. When it comes to training, you should always look at the situation from both sides, so it will be easier for you to understand the behavior of your partner. And remember, in a dance room there is no place for the words “I do not want” and “I can not”, because if not, why are you there?
3- Do not be grumpy, rigorous or plaste!
Sometimes a good relationship is established from the first moment. Because it happens? Because the characters of two people are similar, they do not take everything to the tremendous, they do not create conflicts, but they try to solve them all with a certain irony, laughing as much of what happened as of themselves. A lost tournament is not the end of the world, and if one is late after work, it is not a tragedy either. Everything is much easier than you think. So do not be plaste and grumpy, because in that case surely no one will want to be with you.
4- Tell your partner how important it is, and what is more important: Tell yourself to counteract self-centeredness!
Think of 5 qualities of your partner that more values, and remember them every time a conflict arises or your partner messes up. Keep it in mind.
Also, tell your partner that you care and that you value her. Not only do girls like nice words, boys also like to listen to them, but do not overdo it, moderation above all.
5- Invite your partner to a coffee or a chocolate bar, if you come to the story, because yes. Break with monotony.
There are many holidays to congratulate your partner, is another reason to remind you that you value. So do not forget about birthdays and other important dates. Each dancer will gladly remember the anniversary of their first tournament or the first training together. That day invite your partner to a coffee or a chocolate bar. Why? Because the creation of a healthy relationship depends only on you. Even if today things are fatal, you have time, imagination and strength to change it for the better, so do not stand still, take a chance.
Maintaining a Dance Couple relationship is difficult as it is in a relationship.
Many times the constant changes of couple, lost times to find others, etc., delay us greatly in the advance, and hurt us.
On the other hand, the passage of time tends to cause everything to fall into monotony. The principles are all exciting, but the passage of time cools the relationships and turns everything gray. That is the phenomenon of Disenchantment, to which we are all vulnerable, but some more and others less.
If you have “identified” that phenomenon, you can try to immunize yourself, but if not, it will happen many times that you start with enthusiasm an activity, or a relationship and time after everything goes off, appearing defects that more than being them, are appreciations of DISENCHANTMENT. If you are one of those people who change a lot of couple and you soon see everything negative with everyone, you will most likely suffer from that evil, the evil of the Disenchantment. And that will not let you move forward because for some things or for others always tend to end sports relations. Watch that it does not happen to you, because you will be the most harmed.
source: DANCESPORT DANCERS CHANNEL
Alexánder Gascón & Alexandra Zaiko Spanish winners Junior 1 10 dances (*PREMIUM COUPLE PROGRAM)
On Thursday 6th December, 2018, Spanish Champions of 8 Dances Junior 1 dances, Alexánder Gascón & Alexandra Zaiko (ELITE CLUB-VALENCIA) were proclaimed winners, winning all dances.
The Championship of Spain was held in Guadalajara, near Madrid. The competition was established among 28 couples from all over Spain.
Trainers Valera Zaiko, Yulia Zaiko, and parents thank the other teachers with whom the couple works frequently: Lorera Costa (Spain), Guillem Pascual (Spain) Ilya Danilov (Russia).
GORGEOUS WORLD CHAMPIONSHIP ADULT STANDARD IN VIENNA. 17-18 NOVEMBER 2018. Chronicle, results, photos and videos
This Saturday, November 17, in Vienna, the Standard World Championship was held. The technical and inspired dance of Dmitry Zharkov and Olga Kulikova allowed them to regain the title of world champion! For the fourth consecutive year!
Dmitry and Olga have risen to the highest step of the podium of the main tournament of the year!
As expected, the representatives of Lithuania Evaldas Sodeika and Eva Zukauskaite became the winners of the silver medal.
The bronze was taken by Francesco Galuppo and Debora Pacini from Italy.
The fourth position was obtained by the vice champions of 2018, Evgeny Moshenin and Dana Spitsyna.
In total, 81 couples participated in the World Championship.
WORLD CHAMPIONSHIP WDSF STANDARD
1. Dmitry Zharkov – Olga Kulikova, RUS
2. Evaldas Sodeika – Ieva Zukauskaite, LTU
3. Francesco Galuppo – Debora Pacini, ITA
4. Evgeny Moshenin – Dana Spitsyna, RUS
5. Vaidotas Lacitis – Veronika Golodneva, LTU
6. Anton Skuratov – Alena Uehlin, GER
MYTHS ON THE PERFECTIONISM IN DANCESPORT
“Perfection must be a Tendency and not an Exigency”.
Many athletes, champions of different sports, share “a proven history of extreme perfectionism”.
One could then ask, is it good or bad to be a perfectionist? What does it mean to be a perfectionist? How do you become a perfectionist? and, can and should be changed to be?
Let’s explore these topics by examining various myths about perfectionism and highlight the consequences or recommendations for dance coaches.
Let’s begin by examining the most common mistakes about Perfectionism and its relationship with sports excellence.
MYTH 1 – DO ALL KNOW WHAT DOES PERFECTIONISM MEAN?
It is understandable that Perfectionism suggests different things to different individuals, given their multiple definitions in the literature.
The standard definition is the “tendency to improve a job indefinitely without deciding to consider it never completely finished.” For example, if it is negative we would say that “its excessive perfectionism is delaying us all” or if it is positive, it is said that “its excessive perfectionism has improved the performance of all “, depends on the optics and perspective with which it is observed.
Perfectionism has been defined generically as the “setting excessively high performance standards” and then, a more recent, formal conceptualization, as “a personality style characterized by an effort to establish impeccable and excessively high performance standards with tendencies toward too critical evaluation of one’s behavior “.
While researchers have not agreed on a single definition of perfectionism, it is universally accepted that the central aspect of perfectionism is the establishment and struggle for higher levels.
MYTH 2 -THE PERFECTIONISTS ARE ALL EQUAL-
As with any style or personality trait, no two individuals are the same and this is true also for perfectionists.
While perfectionists share the characteristic of establishing and fighting for high standards, many other interrelated characteristics differ.
For this reason researchers categorize perfectionists into two types: the “positive” perfectionist, also called normal, adaptable, healthy, functional or active, and the “negative”, considered neurotic, poorly adapted, unhealthy, dysfunctional or passive.
Let’s look at the characteristics of these two types of trainers and perfectionist players:
• Has the ability to see yourself as successful even if you do not achieve “perfect performance” and enjoy your achievements.
• Has the ability to accept personal and situational limitations; is realistic when controlling and evaluating your own performance.
• Is motivated to excel and focused to do things.
• Maintains a relaxed but careful attitude, trusting in their abilities.
• Disappointed with failure but renew effort and commitment.
• Complete assignments on time.
• He is a balanced thinker.
THE NEGATIVE PERFECTIONIST
• You are rarely satisfied with your achievements; he tends to see himself as a failure.
• He is always worried and is too critical of his results. He has an inability to accept his mistakes.
• Is motivated by fears of failure and worried about disappointing others.
• Is tense and anxious about tasks, has compulsive tendencies; He doubts his abilities and is concerned about the quality of performance.
• Self-assessment depends on the results and not on the improvement in performance.
• Tends to postpone decisions or tasks.
• He is an extremist thinker: “white or black” or “all or nothing”, is perfect or failure; right or wrong.
To briefly summarize the features presented above, negative perfectionists set extremely high standards, however, because they are too critical and intolerant of mistakes, they are never satisfied with their results; They believe that these could always be better.
On the other hand, positive perfectionists accept personal and situational limitations and the inevitability of making mistakes, and thus enjoy the intentional pursuit of excellence.
It is suggested that the critical distinction between positive and negative perfectionism is found in the individual’s demand for perfection.
While all perfectionists strive for perfection, negative perfectionists also feel a need to act impeccably, that is, they do not accept or act imperfectly. There is always courage in the fight for perfection in sport, but nothing is earned by demanding perfectionism.
source: Dancesport Dancers Channel